"Dr. Warren Farrell is the greatest expert on the importance of fathers. His DVD, The Best Interests of the Child, is incredible. Just incredible. It is chock full of insights and information. It is priceless."
-- Steve Ashley, Director of Divorced Fathers Network and Radio Show, Santa Cruz, CA.
When you order this “Evidence Kit,” you’ll have everything you need to help the court understand exactly why the best parent is both parents. The Evidence Kit includes:
- One copy of Dr. Warren Farrell’s Father and Child Reunion, a lucidly-written book with hundreds of footnotes and research references. It is the largest meta-analysis in book form of what is best either for children of divorce, or children raised in non-intact families. For years we had theories. Now that we have answers there’s no reason for your child’s life to be damaged by ignorance. (See below for more details.)
- Three DVD sets (6 DVDs total) called “The Best Interests of the Child” in which Dr. Farrell is cross-examined about virtually every question that might arise in court questioning whether both parents should be equally involved--even, for example, if the parents are in high conflict, or one wishes to move away for a new job, spouse, etc. The “Kit” contains three copies because you usually need 3 copies to submit as evidence (one for you; the other parent’s attorney, and the court).
- Dr. Farrell strongly recommends that when you give this to your attorney, to watch it with her or him. (Note that many courts will not accept this as evidence except in conjunction with an expert witness.)
- One Audio CD Set version of “The Best Interests of the Child” (easier for listening on a car trip).
- Case law governing parental rights with over 250 case citations in a flash drive drive labeled “Evidence Kit” to use in your case and include in your court submissions.
- Recent research showing the custody arrangement that is superior for children, and how to make your parenting plan consistent with this research. This is also included in a flash drive labeled “Evidence Kit”
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Most judges and helping professionals know children of divorce do better when raised by both parents. However, when a mom feels “it would be best for my children to live with me,” and the judge witnesses parents in conflict, or the mom cites fear of the husband, or a “need” to move away, or a need for stability, even professionals assume she knows best. In the process, they may miss cues that reveal her territoriality (such as saying “my children”) and hints of her underlying resistance to genuine shared parenting.
Why is some moms’ resistance to genuine shared parenting so easily missed? Because our understanding of a dad’s contribution runs so shallow. Even the dad doesn’t understand what the research shows about exactly how children benefit from his involvement. And moms can’t hear what dads don’t say.
My decade of research, which generated the book Father and Child Reunion, changes that. It creates such depth of understanding about the value of dad-as-equal that it shocks even dads. For example, did you know that children raised primarily by dads do better than children raised primarily by moms? Neither does your attorney. Nor your judge.
More important, Father and Child Reunion and the Evidence Kit will help you understand why dads are so crucial. For example, the more exposure to dad, the more empathetic your children are likely to be. Do you know why? Or why a dad’s equal involvement is likely to reduce your child’s propensity for ADHD, drugs, delinquency, depression, disobedience, temper tantrums, nightmares, divorce, low self-esteem, teenage pregnancy, self-centeredness, poor social development, and underachievement in every academic area? (And that’s just for starters!).
Because it is hard to imagine how an attorney might translate a book into questions for an expert witness in court, I created the CD and DVD “The Best Interests of the Child.” This allows the attorney to understand what questions to ask and the answers I give that most inspire the judge to question the assumption that “mom knows best.”
The evidence kit will cost you $129, less than a half hour of my time. I may—or may not—be available as an expert witness (click here). But if there’s even a small chance you and the mom (or dad) can resolve your parenting issues by communication rather than litigation, you’ll give your children the gift of knowing how to amicably resolve differences. And you’ll model for your children how, if they cannot save their future marriage they can nevertheless save their children. In brief, I’d much prefer to be used to facilitate your communication (click here).
Dr. Warren Farrell,
Author, Father and Child Reunion